Divorce is a complex and serious matter, obviously. But even though everyone is aware of this, there are still plenty of cases where a spouse made a critical mistake or didn’t respect the complexities of the divorce process — and as a result, their divorce did not end in the way they thought it would. So what mistakes should you avoid when you are going through a divorce, and what basic elements do you need to know about the divorce process?
First of all, finances are going to play a massive role in the divorce, so accurate financial information is essential to the whole process. In another way, the financial outcome of your divorce (at least in part) can be handled before you even get married. A prenuptial agreement — or a postnuptial agreement if you have already tied the knot — can address many financial matters involved in your marriage and divorce.
Secondly, do your best to keep your emotions in check. If you get too emotional or upset about your divorce, it will cloud your judgement about the divorce and could lead to some unhappy outcomes. It could also inhibit your ability to negotiate, and negotiation is a crucial part of divorce. Stay calm during the divorce, and do your best to be amicable with your soon-to-be-former spouse.
Last but certainly not least is your children. The best interests of your children will dominate the divorce, and deservedly so. Joint custody is often an agreeable outcome, but if that’s not the route you and your spouse choose, then things can get messy. Consult with an attorney to know all of the possibilities and outcomes of your child custody or support case.
Source: Huffington Post, “7 Common Mistakes to Avoid in Divorce or Separation,” Cheryl and Joe Dillon, Oct. 28, 2014