How you can ask for a prenuptial agreement without causing a stir

Divorce is the last thing you want to think about during the months leading up to your wedding. However, if you want to protect yourself, asking for a prenuptial agreement would be in your best interest.

With the help of a prenuptial agreement, you’re able to outline everything from the assets you’re bringing into the marriage to the inheritance rights of children from a past relationship.

The problem with asking for a prenuptial agreement is that you don’t want to upset your partner. You don’t want to give them reason to believe that you’re already preparing for divorce.

Here’s what you can do to ask for a prenuptial agreement without causing a stir:

• Don’t issue demands: It’s a common mistake to demand that your partner signs a prenuptial agreement, as opposed to having an open and meaningful conversation. The second you get pushy is the second your partner will become defensive. Avoid this at all costs.
• Talk about your fears: There’s a reason why you want to create a prenuptial agreement. Share these reasons, along with your fears, to give your partner a clear idea of where you are coming from.
• Don’t become upset or angry: You and your partner may not see eye to eye during this conversation, so it’s critical to keep your emotions in check. If you become upset or angry, it will drive a wedge between the two of you, making it difficult to proceed.
• Ask and answer questions: If you have questions on your mind, don’t be shy about getting them out into the open. Just the same, if your partner asks you a question, provide a detailed and honest answer.
• Don’t cram the entire process into a single conversation: It typically takes time to work everything out, so don’t assume that you have to finalize the details of your prenuptial agreement during your first discussion. If you leave yourself enough time before your wedding day, you can move forward a little bit at a time.

These are the types of steps you can take to ask for a prenuptial agreement without causing a stir. When you combine these steps with knowledge of the benefits and options, and you have a clear plan of what you want to accomplish, it’s more likely that you’ll work through the details in a less stressful way.